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Getting Started

If you're keen to get chatting online, there are a number of steps you should follow to ensure that you have a safe and rewarding experience.

1. Choosing a Chatroom

Whether you want to talk about skydiving, politics or the latest films, there are chat rooms for just about every topic you can think of. Even if you can't find an existing chat room that suits you, you can usually create your own. Try the following:

  • Search the Internet for Web-based chat rooms on specific topics.
  • See if your instant message program offers a chat room function. Many IM programs allow users to participate in public chat rooms as well as create their own.
  • Check for any chat room utilities offered by your Internet Service Provider (ISP) - most large commercial ISPs offer a variety of chat rooms categorised by topic or demographic segment, as well as general chat rooms with no specific focus.
  • Think about using Internet Relay Chat (IRC), which is a multi-user, multi-channel chat system that is run on a network.

2. Creating a Nickname

Before you enter a chat room, you will usually be required to choose a nickname; the more creative and original your chat name, the better. Your nickname will be the first impression that other chat room users will have of you, so take some time to think of a great chat name which will make you sound interesting to others. Try picking a nickname that describes you, that reflects your personality or life situation without giving away any personal information. It is also best to choose nicknames that don't make your gender obvious or that may attract the wrong kind of interest, (unless that's what you're looking for of course ...)

Some Good Examples ...

  • LiveForTheWeekend
  • I_Want_A_Porche
  • CorrieFan

Some Bad Examples ...

  • Cardiff_Sally_B
  • Rebecca1995
  • Im_a_hottie

If your chosen nickname is already in use, keep trying until you find something unique; either choose something new, add a series of numbers to the start or end of your name (e.g. "TeaDrinker123") or consider using underscores, such as "Cookie_Monster".

If you choose a fairly long nickname, you should expect it to be shortened by others when they refer to you in discussions; for example, LiveForTheWeekend would probably be shortened in chat to "Weekend" and I_Want_A_Porche to "Porche".

You may end up using your chat name for a long time, so make sure you choose one you're really happy with.

3. Joining a Conversation

Many chat services will allow you to preview a room by reading the profiles of any users who are currently in the room. Use this function to see if a room is right for you before entering.

When you enter the chatroom, a list of the other chatter's nicknames will appear; often in alphabetical order, or in order that the user joined the room. If there are moderators or hosts present (the people in charge of the room), they will usually have either an '@' sign or a gavel in front of their name.

You may be greeted by some of the users when you enter the room; don't be shy to say "hello" - just type it and press "enter". Take a few minutes to get a feel for how the room operates and see what the general topic of conversation is - this is termed 'lurking'. If you are able to gauge the feeling of the different personalities in the chat room, make comments or chat about the current subject being discussed you are far more likely to be welcomed into the exchange by the other users than if you simply jump into a conversation.

Once you start chatting, all you need to do is follow the simple guidelines to chat etiquette and have fun!