Dating married or otherwise attached people (unless you can be sure that they are living apart from their spouse or partner) is something you should steer clear of if you want to avoid heartbreak and frustration. The pitfalls are many: sharing your lover with someone else can cause you to lose self respect, you risk falling in love with someone you can't have, you may feel second best much of the time and chances are you'll become frustrated and lonely, unable to spend quality time with your lover.
So many of us have heard the old lines:
- "... my wife/husband doesn't understand me"
- "I'll leave them as soon as I can sort things out ..."
- "... my partner and I have an understanding"
- "My wife/husband and I live together, but we sleep in separate rooms"
Whatever reason they give, the truth is, if they're still living with their spouse or partner, then they need to sort out THAT relationship before moving on to another one. It's far better to start a relationship with a clean slate rather than be seen as the cause for a messy break-up or divorce.
Remember, if you start to go out with someone who is already attached, then your entire relationship is already founded on deceit. And if they can lie to and cheat on their spouse, then in all likelihood they will also do it to you. If you value yourself, then you need to believe that there are some truly great single people out there - why waste your life on dating someone unavailable?
