If you are considering getting back together with an ex, part of you may have some nagging doubts and concerns about the wisdom of your decision, and you may be unsure whether to risk it or simply to walk away. If you do choose to make up, there are a number of things you need to consider:
1. Think About Why You're Making Up
First of all, you must take some time to think about the reasons you want to get back together. Is it simply because you miss being a couple with them, even though they treated you badly in the past or you know deep down they're not right for you? Have either of just been dumped by your new partner and is looking for a bit of comfort? Do you simply want to get back together because you're jealous of other people taking an interest in your ex?
If you're getting back together, make sure it's for the right reasons; that you truly believe that you are right and good for each other.
2. Acknowledge the Reasons for Breaking Up
It is important not to get so caught up in the breath-taking moment of making up, that you forget the reasons you broke up in the first place. It can be very easy to be so excited that you are a couple again that you assume that all your previous problems have just disappeared. Unless you both take a good hard look at the obstacles and issues that forced you to split last time, then you're both simply papering over the cracks. The same cracks will probably emerge once the second honeymoon period is over.
3. Agree the Changes
Once you and your partner have acknowledged what went wrong the last time you were together, then you'll need to make an agreement of what changes will be made and how you will improve your relationship. When you've made these arrangements - stick to them! Many couples make agreements when they first get back together but soon forget them and go back to their old pattern, which, if you remember, simply did not work. If you do not respect and follow the new arrangements, you will find yourselves arguing about the same issues all over again.
4. Take it Slowly
If the two of you have agreed to get back together, you should both be committed to giving your relationship another chance. However, once you are committed, don't feel that you have to rush into things, after all, you've both promised to stick around for the long term.
Making up after a long separation can be very tricky, you may have to start again almost from scratch. Go out on dates and get to know each other again. Do something romantic for one another as often as possible to rekindle the feelings and reasons you fell in love in the first place. Always remember what caused you to separate in the first place and avoid getting into those situations again.
