Okay, so you've spotted someone you like the look of and want to flirt with them, but maybe you aren't quite ready to make the first move. Just looking like you're happy and confident is often enough to get you noticed. However, if you're with a group of friends, try not to look like you're having TOO much fun, otherwise the person you're interested in may feel that they'd be breaking up the party by coming over to talk to you.
Once you're relaxed and happy, shoot them a quick glance, catch their eye and then look away again. Try it again a few moments later, only this time, give them a half smile too. If they are swapping the same signals, then it's likely that they're interested in you as well.
Who walks over to who is entirely up to the both of you; whilst it's traditionally the role of the man to make the first move, there's nothing stopping a woman from going up to chat to someone she fancies. However, why not try meeting halfway? It's daunting for anyone to go up to talk to someone when they're surrounded by a group of friends; move yourself away from your group so that you have a chance to talk on your own; go to the bar, investigate an interesting picture on the wall, visit the buffet table, anything that will indicate that you're willing for them to join you.
Once you've finally met and have got the conversation going, there are a number of basic flirting moves that you can use to make sure that you're sending the right signals - and more importantly, to check if they're as interested in you as you are in them!
1. Check Their Eyebrows
Although this technique may sound odd, raising your eyebrows is one of the most instantly recognised non-verbal sign of friendly greeting in the world. Think about it; have you ever been in a busy pub or crowded party when you've spotted someone you know, but are too far away to say "Hello"? Instead of shouting across the room, you may find that you raise your eyebrows in greeting to show that you have noticed and recognised them.
When we see somebody we like the look of, we automatically 'flash' our eyebrows briefly - watch out for it carefully, as it only lasts around one-sixth of a second. You can also use this technique to tell someone on a subconscious level that you're interested in them by lengthening the duration of the flash - raise your eyebrows for about one second whilst catching their eye to create the greatest impact.
2. The Flirting Triangle
When we interact with people that we're not close to, we tend to keep our gaze at eye level, often darting eye to eye and across the bridge of the nose. As our intimacy with a person increases, our look also begins to take in their nose and mouth, our eyes moving in a triangular motion between the three. When we start flirting, the size of the triangle increases to take in the body, and we spend more time looking at their mouth. It's very sexy to catch someone looking at your mouth; you can't help but wonder if they're thinking of kissing you... which of course, they probably are!
