There are a number of positive body language signals that both men and women give off if they're interested in each other, often within the first ten minutes of meeting. Look out for some of the major behaviour clues, such as:
- if they run their hands through their hair (this may also involve other aspects of hair-play for women),
- if they suck in their tummies; this means that they are trying subconsciously to minimise them and also to emphasise their upper torso or breasts,
- if their pupils dilate.
If you're interested in someone, it's important to make sure that your body language reflects this, so that the other person knows (even on a sub-conscious level) that any further overtures would be welcome. The benefit of using non-verbal signs of interest is that if either of you become disinterested as the conversation wears on, then you'll have given nothing away verbally and can feel quite unembarrassed about moving on. Think about using the following gestures:
- Smile at them, openly and warmly.
- Turn your body towards them and lean forward slightly, head just tilted to one side.
- Let your eyes linger on theirs for a few seconds, drop your gaze for a moment and then look into their eyes again for just a second longer.
- Run your fingers through your hair or stroke your face.
Dating Body Language
Body language is not only important when you first meet someone, but also on any subsequent dates you might plan. If someone is really interested in you, they will often mirror your movements, gestures and body positions. They will probably also laugh when you laugh and lean in towards you. You may also notice that they try to sit or stand close to you, with their legs or shoulders touching yours. Look out for other signs, such as 'accidentally' brushing your arm or your hand or gazing at your lips as they wonder what it would be like to kiss them.
If your date doesn't display any of these signals, or constantly looks around the room, then they may be regretting meeting up with you. Look out for the following warning signs:
They begin to fidget and look distracted
- They do not mirror your body language
- They avoid eye contact
- Their smile seems less spontaneous and more stretched
- They fiddle with the cutlery, their collar, their tie, the salt pot, their cigarette lighter ...
- They yawn or rub their eyes
If you notice that they display two or more of these signs (especially if this is in combination with a stilted conversation), then the chances of a future relationship are fairly slim. Learn to recognise the signals so that you can walk away with dignity.
